Relationship ladder dating
So to summarize: Sure, you’ll occasionally notice attractive members of the opposite sex while you’re married, but only in a passing way, unless you’re otherwise unsatisfied with your marriage.Lack of lifetime sexual variety won’t make you unsatisfied, but being unsatisfied will probably make you start longing for sexual variety (hope that makes sense; if not leave me a comment).
Now, think back to when you were dating somebody that you were totally crazy about. Did you ever think “I really want to experience this kissing with other people?
” Or “What about that chapter of the bible where there’s all that sex happening?
Doesn’t that totally contradict the whole abstinence thing?!
You’ll be locked-in to the relationship and totally unfulfilled! In many ways, attitude towards sex (waiting or not) can be a quality like “sense of humor”: everybody is slightly different and a mismatch can really eat away at a relationship if not addressed, just like those non-waiting people told you that it can. You may think that because your girl/guy is enthusiastic and open in conversation that they’re going to be the same way in the bedroom.
That is not always the case, especially when it comes to people with little sexual experience.